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October 14, 2004
an interesting tension
Geeky Mom offers and interesting and fun-to-read commentary on the tension of being both mom and geek (or academic, but I'll grant either). Her tension appears to be in the changing from one to the other, and my tension is all about my inability to separate the two. I think about this a lot; it has to do with the public and the private, I think. There is something about a refusal to really believe that a barrier exists between public and private--the the barrier is simply an artificial self-preservation or something. People are more real when I know the nature of their lives past the surface that is made available to me through public contexts (like work).
The work I'm doing with the home as a public space (for moms, mostly) attests to the conflation of public/private, and the constructedness of these ideas. They don't really exist, or they don't have to exist; some
peo-ple want/need to create boundaries--others (I) cannot.
Posted by mryonker at October 14, 2004 10:02 PM
Comments
As you note, I've been thinking about this a lot. I, too, have two separate blogs, partly because I am using my professional blog to push out information to the faculty about instructional technology. But I think about the professional stuff when I'm at home and the personal stuff when I'm at work. Honestly, although I'd tell the faculty about the things I write about in my personal blog, I wouldn't want it broadcast to them the way I broadcast my professional blog (via rss to the Instructional Technology web site). It is a big tension. For me, it's more of a problem when I'm at home and I have to hide the geeky side. I have less of a problem with letting my personal/mom side be known at work. My immediate colleagues--other IT staff--read my personal blog.
Posted by: Laura at October 15, 2004 08:06 AM
as one of my fave profs here would say, it's "healthy tension." haha. the issue that I think about frequently is that right now, no one is *really* reading what I'm saying and having particularly critical judgments about me. when I go onto the job market (in a 100 years), I'll want to be able control what people see about who I am, but I don't think having two separate blogs will help that. I mean, if it's on the web, someone will find it, even if I don't hand out the URL. I've heard stories of search committees googling prospective profs and finding, you know, everything.
I guess the point is, I can't control what people know about me, really. So I try not to use the F word a lot, but other than that, I'm realizing I don't have a whole bunch to hide.
Posted by: madeline at October 15, 2004 08:14 AM
I find it difficult to separate the two as well. I don't think I'd really thougth of it in those terms, though. That is: I don't find that I have thoughts of personal stuff running through my head when I'm working or vice-versa, but I do feel strongly to know personal aspects of people everywhere, regardless of whether they're in a public/professional arena of my life. Blogging is somewhat like that for me, too. I began blogging anonymously on another site and eventually disclosed my name and location, and when I began my current blog, I just didn't bother w/any pretense. I find that I relate to people based on their own ideas and thoughts, which is why I don't tend to read the blogs that focus only on a specific objective thing like poli-blogs.
Posted by: michelle at October 15, 2004 03:31 PM